Why do congratulations and accolades seem to only come at the END of a journey?
Whatever the goal is – be it a marathon run, a college degree, a weight loss number, whatever, achieving it great, but….
But the morning after the achievement, what do you remember? What will you remember about the triumph a week or year from now? You’ll remember the journey. It’s the best part of the experience!
A marathon runner’s most important run isn’t race day, it’s the work that went before. Every one of those 500-ish miles run before race day count!
College grads remember the classes, parties and exam cramming long after the cap hurls through the air.
And, weight loss journeys aren’t just about a number. It’s about adapting to different habits, tastes, routines to make it a lifestyle change.
Whatever it is that is important to you, writing a book, learning an instrument, climbing Mount Everest, every step you take toward reaching that goal is important.
So why do we wait to congratulate ourselves until the end?
We need to celebrate each and every step, every lesson learned, every milestone met.
It’s important. Be proud.
This morning’s Facebook Feed displayed a meme attached to a writing prompt from Writers Write Creative Blog
Sounds simple, right? OMG what an eye opener!
What Makes Me Happy:
- Husband (28 years today!)
- Writing fiction
- Playing piano (and music in general)
- Gardening (vegetable, herb and flower)
- Reading fiction
- Crafting (crochet, quilling, embroidery)
- Spending time with friends
- Watch movies
What I Actually Do Every Day:
- Work an office day job and a part-time freelance writing job
- Household chores
- Walk dogs 2x a day
- Online surfing: Facebook games, Instagram, Pinterest, other nonsense
- Watch brainless shows on TV
Geez, no wonder I’m so grumpy and unhappy! Reality is painful. It’s also no big surprise as to why my personal relationships are suffering. There is nothing on my daily list to support them! I’ve been fooling myself thinking that I’m just at that stage of life where this is just how it is: work hard, pay the bills, help renovate the new house, etc.
Let’s break this down a bit:
- A day job is essential, one needs to earn a living, after all.
- One needs to have clean underwear and groceries.
- Dogs need to go potty
Clearly though, these essentials do not need to consume my whole world
Adjust accordingly, our image says. It’s funny how timely this is for me. I put several life modifications in order within the last few days, with more to come:
- The freelance job, which was not fun, ends after I submit my last 2 articles tomorrow
- Therefore, the freelance writing time must (and will) convert to writing time
- I spoke to my boss on Tuesday, and we have a plan to make the day-job suck less
- Dog walks will be more about exploring nature, not just potty time
- Online surfing time can and will convert to music and hobby time
These changes are a big step toward reducing stress, making time and increasing joy. Naturally, my personal relationships will enhance as a result. Who wants to be around a Grumpy Gus? I don’t even want to be around me! I see think I need to add something tangible to my daily list for marriage, friends and family. Duly noted.
I’m curious to see how this simple little task of making the two lists translates to others. I hope you hear about your results and what changes work for you!